I’ve had something nagging at me lately.
But its okay to not be too.
I just read this article, from Almeda Patch, about not helping your children, so they can learn it themselves. She talks about the playground and sitting back and letting your kids work through their problems themselves (like climbing up the ladder) to learn how to do it themselves.
Which I’ve always done the best I can with. But it pushed me enough that I have to say this.
This can be applied to our lives as hands on moms too. It’s okay to sit back and be hands off. It may actually even be good to do it.
I made it a goal when I started doing hands on activities with Henry to do 4 activities a week with him. Right now, I’m probably only doing 2 or 3 with all the kids a week (total), and that’s on a good week.
Yep. That’s it.
Just 2 or 3.
Well, I have a lot of reasons right now, but mostly because my kids are entertaining themselves really well lately, and I have been swamped with work stuff, that I’ve been letting it slide. Not a great excuse, I know. But it’s how life is for me right now.
Also, because we recently broke into ‘real’ Legos. Its been taking up a lot of our time actually. Henry’s learning to follow directions, and I’m trying to step back and let him do it on his own there too.
And another good thing about not doing hands on activities with the kids is that it opens up the playing field for the kids! It let’s them explore and push their boundaries and find a new interest! Which opens up a whole new playing field for when we do our hands on activities! A new interest, a whole new area to play!
I’d say I’m still ‘hands on’ with my kids for the most part… I’m just not deliberately doing hands on activities every single day.
And that’s okay.
Its also good to step back and let your kids work through troubles when you are doing hands on activities too! Step back and see if they can figure it out if you just stall a little and give them a little bit of time to work through it. The answer may not always be immediate to them, but they may just surprise you too.
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