Experience that in your house?
Ha. Okay. I won’t be the one with the repetitive questions.
Its probably your kids.
There’s the ‘why’ stage that we’re currently in.
[Which I think I’m pretty good at answering… for now.]
But, I’m sure the nagging repetitive questions will be coming soon in full force.
At times, Henry does ask the same questions over and over. Right now, luckily, it usually only takes a matter of fact answer to get him to stop. If I waver though, he digs in and asks until he gets what he wants. If its ‘just the way it is’ then the questions usually end.
It looks like from the question below from Holly, that this isn’t going to just stop here and now. I’ll have to take action on this before the questions get out of hand!
|How do I limit my children from asking the same questions over and over? With my 10 y/o, he will ask to get together with his friends in the morning and then ask about 10 more times during the day whether it will happen in different phrasing even if I say that “today we can’t make those arrangements”. Then he starts asking for the following day or week, etc. Even when we SEE his friends on the way home he is asking to get back together with them. – asked by Holly|
- Parenting Expert: Erin of The Intentional Parent
- Lifestyle Expert: Sarah of Füdoo Boards
Parenting Expert [Erin from The Intentional Parent] :
My five year old does this [it sure is tiring, huh?].
First of all, think of the positive aspects: he is excited and exuberant about getting together with his friends. I know that with my son, he gets so excited about doing something that he forgets that he has already asked the question, sometimes he’ll even ask it several times in a row.
What I have found helpful, is to encourage him to slow down a little bit, stop and think before he asks a question. If I find him asking the same question several times, I’ll stop answering the question, and respond instead, I’ve already given you the answer, and ask him to tell me the answer.
He just gets so excited about doing something, his mind goes so fast, he sometimes needs help slowing down. I think that quiet time, or quiet activities without the TV on is helpful for kids like this to help them slow down a little.
– Erin, The Intentional Parent
Lifestyle Expert [Sarah from Füdoo Boards] :
I am thinking that you live outside of town, where your child needs a car ride in order to visit friends. This can be difficult for you and him because his reliance on you is cutting into his growing need to be independent. Here are a couple thoughts for you.
Hopefully the questioning from your son about playing with friends will start to diminish.
When the same question from your son starts to drive you crazy, let him know you are keeping track of the number of times he asks. State when the ‘playdate’ is and let him know he has asked once. Then let him know he has asked twice on #2. Also warn him if he asks a third time he will have to go to his room and then remove yourself from the situation.
Whatever you do – don’t play along.
– Sarah, Fudoo Boards
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- Acting Out :
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- My two young boys want to fight, wrestle, kick, hit, and bite each other all the time. Do you have any suggestions for channeling this energy into a more positive direction?
- Repetitive Questions [see above for experts’ advice] : How do I limit my children from asking the same question over and over?
Thank you to all the readers who have submitted questions!
Henry is 3 years.
George is 1 year.
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